I remember a lady who took people pleasing very seriously. She made everyone else happy, as a rule, to the exception of herself of course. When you please everyone else, you’re usually the only one not happy. Because she was a people pleaser, she could never use the word NO when it was needed because people pleasers can’t say NO to anyone. People pleasers avoid conflict at all costs, in order to increase their safety, security and likeability. In the end, people who “go along to get along” don’t believe they can survive without tribal approval, which is a child based adaptation to life. We’re only supposed to use a people pleasing personality when we’re young and don’t have independent means of survival away from the tribe. Many adults today (more so than ever before) interact with the tribe as children….falling victim to life long people pleasing habits and all the mental imbalances that come along with that. This is a very common form of self sabotage….saying YES when we should be saying NO.

Back to my lady friend. She ended up dating a man she didn’t really want to be with for 7 years of her life because she couldn’t find her inner ADULT power or personal sovereignty to say NO and break off that relationship. Because she wanted to say NO but didn’t have the power to use the word NO, she insisted on having other lovers she desired on the side……..which caused untold problems in her life. She dated the man she didn’t want to be with, while letting some men (which she truly loved) slip through her fingers….all because she tried to please everyone else but herself and could never find the courage to use the word NO. She never fully matured from child to adult…..and it was costing her. A very common form of self sabotage…not being able to rise up into our full adult power. This is how people pleasing, fitting in and going along to get along (traits that are needed for survival in childhood) can cause us plenty of issues if we bring those childish traits into our adult lives.

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