After studying the subject of self sabotage for nearly a decade, it’s important a good self sabotage coach analyze themselves and their own behavior. Although this can be intimating, it’s essential for personal growth and of course it can help immensely with coaching other people to more satisfying lives. I know the greatest impact on anyone’s behavior is what they see (through their eyes) over their entire lifetime. I know that there’s a part of the brain (called the subconscious) that records, libraries and analyzes everything taken in through the eyes……over its’ entire lifetime. Our subconscious is like our own personal data mining operation and the subconscious looks for trends and patterns in the outside environment. The trends and patterns that are the most frequently observed become the safety and security code we act out, in order to fit into the environment from which all that data was gathered. We analyze the jungle….so we can fit in and not stand out. There’s safety in the group (safety in numbers), not so much safefy outside the herd.

In the end, what that means is…….like any other human, my environment drives my beliefs, actions and ideas. You become what you see or more importantly……you become the patterns you see. Sometimes the biggest patterns (the most frequently observed) can become the most dis-empowering, covert and fatal for success. For example, the media in conjunction with real life observations……programmed me for JOB FOCUS as a human. People have jobs in real life, people have jobs on the TV shows and movies (I watched as a kid) plus our parents, schools, friends etc…….all reinforce the job focus. Humans are pack animals and we’re very prone (almost guaranteed) to comply immediately with the trends in the group, so we can gain the respect, admiration and friendship of the wolf pack. This makes us feel safe, myself included, and this is what really drives human behavior.

People may say, “well, you’re a business person and you’ve been successful in business for almost 2 decades” and what a person may be missing about that is……..it’s still job focus, every day getting up and grinding it out. I have a good paying job but I still have a job. I’m a slave to routine. Life does me, I don’t do life. I have a little bit more freedom than others but no where near enough in my opinion. I don’t have a life where I can do exactly what I want every single day……and therefore I’ve concluded that I got caught by one of the biggest subconscious safety based traps inside my own psyche, which is the belief that I needed to work hard for a living, each day, every day. I’ve also concluded that I have “warrior and rescuer programming” (implanted into me by Hollywood media), which is also holding me back from my true potential.

As of Jan 4th 2019, I started working with a team where very soon, I won’t have to work ever again and that’s the truth of it. I’ll still offer value to people around the world but I’ll remove the belief that in order to fit into the wolf pack, I need to grind it out on the job. Other media influences and even religious programming is involved, regarding working hard to prove you’re spiritual, down to earth and even noble……but that’s just another self sabotaging mind virus I’m removing from my own mental hard drive, so I can have the life I’m capable of. If you see any sort of changes on the page soon, that’s sort of what’s going on. Thank you for the on going support. It’s time to do what I love full time, which is teaching and enjoying my family…….and that’s it.