Most people today drink, smoke, eat junk food and invest in excessive amounts of mind numbing screen time simply because they’re afraid to become better than average. Inside the mind, safety and security is always connected emotionally to fitting in with the herd. There’s safety in numbers and group connection equates to increased chances of safety and survival. Currently the herd is extremely mediocre, so the psyche understands in a millisecond that the easiest way to keep fitting in and to never offend the collective, is to also be mediocre. Today most people self sabotage and constantly down grade their aspirations and innate creativity, so they can acquire safety within the group. Unfortunately that “larger group” in our society continually lowers the bar regarding their own aspirations and achievements year after year. If you’re honest with yourself, you’ll recognize that people today are getting bigger, sicker, poorer and more self abusive…..each and every year that goes by. It used to be that 200lbs was overweight, now it’s 260. It used to be that taking 2 medications was excessive, now it’s 7-8. Dying at 75 was once considered “too early”, now children are dying at regular intervals and most people are figuratively dead at 50, with their bodies just walking around for another 15 years before they “technically” die. How many people carried $100,000 in debt 50 years ago? How many now? The trends are obvious and those trends have a major impact on your behavior and your personal aspirations regarding group acceptance, social conformity and your place inside the herd.

Making $50,000 more per year means you’re outside the herd. Being healthy means you’re outside the herd. Having a successful marriage means you’re outside the herd. Being at a good weight means you’re outside the herd. Rejecting the cut, poison and burn medical system means you’re outside the herd. Trying to eat healthy on Halloween, New Years and around Christmas means you’re outside the herd. Not drinking or eating junk food means you’re outside the herd. Starting your own business means you’re outside the herd. Planning for a better future means you’re outside the herd. Thinking and not “repeating” means you’re outside the herd. Acting like a true adult in your adult years means you’re outside the herd. If you told a large group of people that they’re under achieving and failing purposely in order develop stronger emotional bonds with the dysfunctional herd, they wouldn’t believe you………..but that’s what the science has already proven concretely long ago.

So how do you break away and find concrete solutions, knowing that this is the case……..knowing that humans self sabotage because it’s safer to be mediocre, sick, overweight and dis-empowered? Below is a picture of the location where I’m holding my Overcoming Self Sabotage Workshop this November. You can attend live or request a recorded video of the event, which will be edited into movie format. Private message me if you’re interested in either. Have a great weekend.