I remember a guy I knew, who did plenty of cocaine and he thought “love” was “snorting cocaine”. To him, there was no greater love. So one day he got a bonus at work and promptly marched in a big bag of cocaine to his new romantic partner and slid it across the kitchen table. The romantic partner was insulted, confused, bewildered and taken back. My friend didn’t understand…..because according to his damaged psyche, he was simply loving her in the same way he always loved himself. To him his actions said “I love you” (with the gift of cocaine) and he was deeply wounded that she rejected his dysfunctional form of love. His love model was about pain, self sadism and the fine art of being less inside a society where being less is celebrated, supported, protected as a safe zone and promoted as the place to be. In our society, there’s a “safety” in being less and messy, but of course it’s a trap. With so many people today opting out for lives of addiction and mediocrity, it’s best everyone start being a little more judgemental with who they pick as their romantic partners. The weak soul likes “the non judgement” zone….but that’s where dreams go to die.

This is a funny sort of story because in our modern time, most people hunt their romantic partners in bars or other unhealthy venues, where people self abuse and self destroy as an Olympic sport………and then people wonder why the relationships don’t work out. If you’re looking for a romantic partner then go out and start looking………but understand that everything you need to know about how they’ll treat you, can be found in how they treat themselves.