This is a series that helps you on your journey to health by gently guiding your thoughts with certain questions. Today the question is, “Do you know that all emotions , which you manifest from your thoughts, wash over you first and then others second?” Take a look at the picture heading this blog. That’s a radio antenna and basically humans are exactly like these signal transmitting devices in many ways.  Think about the radio station in your home town and ask yourself, “Where is the strongest signal?”. The strongest signal is right at the tower and the signal fades as you move away from the tower. That means each emotion you generate will hit you first and hit you with the most impact. You’re ground zero. Think about that the next time you generate hate or love for someone else. You feel that emotion first and with the most intensity. What you think about others, changes you first.

The subconscious mind is obsessed with taking in information and then making  what’s called “short cuts“. For example, after the subconscious mind was exposed to you trying to walk as a child it took in all your attempts and derived the pattern you call “walking“. The subconscious mind set that pattern into a very particular neuron pathway so that when you get up and walk across any room, you don’t have to fall down in front of everyone and learn again. The subconscious mind does this with digestion, your heart beat, driving, sexual function, playing sports, eating and basically anything it can find a pattern in. The subconscious mind ignores specifics and focuses on patterns.The subconscious mind runs 95-99% of everything you do.

Remember the self love I was talking about in the first 2 articles in this series? Remember how I said that self love was the most important factor for you hitting your full potential? Well…..when you date, marry or court people under traditional societal standards we’re told that a good relationship is about love restriction. (you can love only one person at a time and if you decide to change that love you need to destroy the old love or lover first before you move on)  Love is also restricted tradtionally by giving it conditions, or what’s called conditional love. You’re to provide your love only when your partner is following the program and extract it or restrict your love if they go outside the program. Instead of love flowing freely, we’re programmed to restrict love to definitions that actually stop it’s flow altogether. Conditional love is not real love. Loving someone without conditions is love in it’s truest form.

We’re taught that the peak of our romantic endeavours (marriage) is a public contract where you will restrict your love away from all others, except your chosen partner. Sounds great except that subconscious mind is now picking up all those patterns, as it’s gradually exposed to all the different situations where you voluntarily restrict your love. Given the idea that our thoughts are broadcast from the mind like a radio signal (washing over us first) we restrict self love immediately and the love to others second. All the subconscious mind sees and hears is “make sure to restrict love” and that includes all forms of love……….including self love, love of others, love of life…….anything that involves love. The subconscious mind starts making you look at the ground when love comes your way, avoid eye contact, reduce your sexuality in all you do, don’t flirt, don’t talk to love, don’t think about loving others, wear less flattering cloths, reduce sexual energy…..etc etc. This is the odd programming of the subconscious mind. It can be our best friend or our worst enemy if we don’t understand how it works.

This is the reason why so many relationships and marriages fail as time passes. The first person who feels the love restriction is the person who follows this programming to the letter. (otherwise known as the perfect wife or perfect husband) Their bodies often change to match their mental programming. They easily become unmotivated, lifeless, overweight, non-sexual, dark and often depressed. They would also have no real idea of where the love for their partner went.

Love is meant to flow and when it’s restricted from self and other………..you’re playing with fire because you need love to build more love in your life. Love is the only force in the world that can expand indefinitely. There is more than enough for everyone. It’s free. You just have to let in flow through you.

Do we have anything we can compare this restricted love model to? Think about parents with their children. Never are we taught anything about restricting our love to more than one child and with that everyone gets love in their own special way as a child, even if you have 10 siblings. One is a restrictive love model (marriage – that now ends with more than a 50% failure rate…….with some people who stay married showing signs of extreme mental and physical stress) and the other (loving your kids equally no matter how many you have) is non-restrictive. The non restrictive model appears to obviously have a much better track record for keeping love alive than restrictive models. Should we have more than one lover? I can’t give you an answer but I know we can do better than our current stifling belief system where pain and suffering is promised to bring us a better existence.

What does this look like in real life? It looks like two people who love each other passionately entering into a situation where they publicly promise to now restrict their love to the best of their abilities. Everyone entering believes they will be different and they want to prove to the world that their love is “the one” but they never consider how the subconscious mind works. To the subconscious mind, it can’t tell that the command of love restriction applies to others and not self, so it starts restricting love period.

The subconscious mind observes the person avoiding other people’s incoming love (people flirting with you) and also observes the person actively avoiding loving others as well. (you avoiding flirting) The subconscious mind wants to save time and makes a “short cut” out of any pattern it can, so it starts starving the body of love. Love is like a river so the best you can do is dam it but it always explodes over or through the dam.  The conventional institutions who are responsible for this restrictive love model are famous for many other structures that increase suffering and restrict love’s natural flow. These ideas are outdated and they don’t work. It’s time for change.

More in the next post. Nothing that restricts the flow of your love will be good for you, your partner or the world in general. People who restrict their own love will restrict the love of their partner and both will become very frustrated. People who restrict love for themselves can become quite dangerous, as without love…………only fear can grow. People in fear are the people who crash the stock market, start wars, promote hurting yourself as a way to get healthier and do things to increase their security by taking away your security. (taxes, disease fund raising, making laws that favor them and not you etc)

The key is to make small subtle changes in your own life that reflect self love. Once you start respect or loving yourself, you are then ready to broadcast that signal to the world via the radio antenna idea described above. Don’t place restrictive love rules on others because as we have learned from the radio antenna theory, you will feel those restrictive rules the strongest and anything that restricts love will actually cause disease and weight gain. You need love as much as you need food and water. Love freely. Start small. Cast a loving look at someone who catches your eye today and then really think about what you felt. Come into tune with what you need to hit your full potential.