I was at a dinner a couple weeks ago when the grandfather of the family visited the home. The first things out of his mouth was what was wrong with the house, what was wrong with the lawn, what was wrong with the steps and how everyone was failing the grade etc etc. What was more interesting than that was the grandfather of this family wasn’t aware he was being critical, as his first order of business. I am very observant when it comes to psychology because psychological energy is the most powerful force on this planet. Someone’s psychological energy can destroy you or help you rocket skyward. If someone is programmed like this, my spider senses go on high alert, in order to steer clear. You never want to be near the energy of a person programmed for failure, stagnation, underachievement or reflexive obedience to the consensus trance simply because their energy will infiltrate your energy field and affect you in a negative way. I’m always rude to people like this purposely, in order to create a firm energy line in the sand that says “do not cross”. I protect my energy field like a rabid dog.

As I was observing the situation, this critical barrage from the grandfather triggered the granddaughter to start being critical of her husband. Magically nothing the husband was doing at the exact moment was good enough, at the same time that the grandfather walked in. Psychological energy operates exactly like electricity. The grandfather’s energy jumped to his daughter instantly. This is very common, that the children get triggered to mimic the behavior of the parents, especially when the parents are physically present.

What I was seeing was something that’s extremely common and it’s called “perfectionist parenting”. Perfectionist parenting means “nothing is ever good enough” and instead of driving children to success, it paralyzes children in a fear prison and has them avoid success, for fear of that razor sharp and predictable judgement. Perfectionist parenting is about constant judgement as always “failing the grade”. This sort of judgement is often reserved more harshly when the child tries something new and fails. Trying something new and failing is how we grow and evolve, by adding experience to our neurological adaptation pathways. A perfectionist/judging parent produces children who are literally paralyzed in their life, paralyzed away from trying anything new, knowing the judgement will come. Even if the child succeeds, the judgement comes as “not quite being up to par.” This means the child receives negative feedback energy if they succeed and fail…..so they actually stop growing, evolving and maturing at a natural rate. Perfectionist parents often trap their children in a permanent state of arrested development. Most perfectionist parents believe their harsh, subtle, covert and constant criticism helps mold a more successful child but psychological research proves that the opposite is always the result.

In the end, we can always heal, regardless of what has molded our behavior pathways as a child. We can override any negative programming and move ahead, at anytime. We just need to know the special programming language or “code”, in order to insert the new programs we desire. You know the routine, email me at [email protected] and I can provide you some information on reprogramming your subconscious mind and removing your self sabotage based programs. Title your email, “I’m ready to move ahead. It’s time.”