Talking to a lady yesterday, who’s an “exercise guru” on the net. She doesn’t sell anything, isn’t focused on any goal in particular, doesn’t have a cent to her name and simply tries to live off the emotional energy of the people who watch her exercise daily on various social media channels. I also notice she’s very worried about her clothing, her camera angles, her weight, her body composition, her chest size, her smile, her hair, her shoes, her bum size etc etc. She asks me to to review what I see and tell her what’s holding her back. “Where am I sabotaging myself?”, she asks.

For me this is very simple. She’s herd focused, she cares too much for what the herd is thinking and wants to avoid any negative criticism from the bigger group. Her life is controlled by the judgement of the herd and the herd judges most harshly when you’re smart, rich and good looking. Scoring a hat trick in life (looks, money and intelligence……and even fame etc) drives a person to a level much higher than the average Joe. The growing of three tall poppies like this…means a massive attack is guaranteed. Humans are pack animals and if you’re different………you’re getting attacked, even if you’re different in a better way. People who are BETTER get attacked the most. If you’re NOTHING, you threaten no one.

She can’t hack the attack because she’s never developed her own personal self hood outside the herd……..so of course she has no focus, doesn’t sell anything (because the herd thinks money is evil) and wastes her time trying to make everyone else happy. She’s OK being “good looking” but knows if she combines her beauty with intelligence and wealth….she’ll be attacked. She’s weak. She’s underachieving to please the underachievers who surround her……….which is stupid. The easiest way to make most people happy is to be just like them……..average, mediocre, addicted, dependent and unmotivated. She looked confused and yelled nervously, “so what exactly should I do……….in 6 sentences or less.” I said “get disciplined, stop wasting your time, develop some big goals, start selling things that make you money and fuel your bigger dreams, don’t be afraid of the herd of mediocrity because they will always attack the tall poppy……and get moving on this right away. Your approach yells FEAR of what others think of you. You be your best. Let them choke on it. Be pretty, rich and smart. Shine so bright that they can’t even look your way. Deliver your true talents to the world and let the underachievers heckle you from the stands. Who cares. It’s a small price to pay for being who you are and living your dream life.” She said “shit, you’re intense……but I like it.” I said, “stop barking at the moon and go give the world your gift.”