Would you believe that a great deal of self sabotage comes from you being afraid of achieving more than the people around you? Are you aware that humans are pack animals and that they’re genetically wired to appease the herd, in order to increase safety and security? Did you know that this code, which is written into our DNA, means that blending with the herd and never doing anything different than the herd……is something we have a laser like focus for.

For example, the ritual of drinking wine or alcohol (even on the weekend) doesn’t come from the fact that ingesting a documented poison is healthy, logical or makes us better on any level. We’re simply hard wired to mimic and follow the crowd. Not only does drinking booze help us fit into the herd (by copying what the herd is doing, without logical analysis in regards to our personal goals)……..but mimicking the consumption of alcohol helps us maintain a very acceptable level of mediocrity……so we lack the energy, monetary resources and focus that we need to become MORE than the herd. If you’re drinking wine in your free time, you’re not writing a business plan or researching in your free time. Staying the same is celebrated in our society, becoming more isn’t.

So when a person buys a home treadmill and never uses it, purchases a gym membership and never goes, plows junk food into their mouths (instead of vegetables), watches TV instead of reading or watching an instructional video or even starts an office affair with no rational analysis of the consequences……..what we’re seeing are both patterns in play. We’re seeing a mimicking of the “negative role model” based media and we’re seeing the embracing of mediocrity as the “safe zone”, within the mediocre and dysfunctional herd. We see the opportunity to become more sitting right at our fingertips, but we see that it’s rejected because MORE isn’t as safe as being mediocre or even failing. When you fail in our society you get more attention than when you succeed. That’s all part of the cycle of how our society is designed, so you stay stuck in your stuckness.The worst part of this cycle is that our social engineers perpetually lower the bar every year for human behavior, through their negative role modelling media. This means that if you want to fit in year after year……you need to be less and less. I’m a self sabotage coach and today I’m not trying to sell you anything. I just want you to know why you may be having a hard time becoming your best and that’s simply because there’s plenty of genetic and media based pressure for you to be your worst. This is also not a chance happening. It’s a designed plan so the people on top stay there and the people at the bottom never rise up. There are ways to break out of this cycle of course. Knowledge is power. Power to the people.