I remember one of my friends complaining to the girl he was dating that he didn’t really like when she did this or that. This put pressure on the lady to be something she wasn’t and to hide her natural behavior. This basically forced the female to lie about many things she was doing, which she just did anyway when he wasn’t around. As time went on, this meant the relationship became based more on “acting” than actual love, respect and the sharing of mutual goals. This is how you date like a beta, not an alpha……..so I had to explain all this to him. I know all this of course because I was a beta dater at one time myself. When you date someone, simply place no restrictions on them and observe who they really are. If you like what you see, stay. If you don’t like what you see, say nothing…..and simply (without conflict) move forward in your own life.
I remember I did this with someone I was dating once. I just left right in the middle of the relationship and the lady thought things were great. We laughed, joked, were pleasant with each other but of course she did things I just couldn’t live with. The lady was confused because she was used to the “big fights” and “conflicts” before any relationship ended but that doesn’t have to be the case. You don’t have to give the people you date an itemized list of how they’re not right for you. You’re allowed to move on and keep looking. You don’t have to destroy them upon departure, as the movies teach us to. Show them the same respect you show yourself. Give them the freedom to be who they really are, don’t restrict them and then stay or move on……always keeping your high moral and ethical standard of conduct intact. That’s how you date like an alpha. Don’t whine and complain, trying to bend them into who you desire. Just observe and don’t stop dating until you find someone who’s naturally a better match for you.
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